Remember the "on again/off again" thing? It has arrived again :) We still have a surgery date but not Aug. 29th...it's now Aug. 30th. And now instead of doing the two surgeries together, only the spinal cord surgery will happen that day. The spinal fusion is now scheduled for Sept. 26th. The three docs got together and decided that research shows doing the two surgeries together increases the chances of complications. They were trying to lessen the amount of times Kasey had to go under the knife but in this case, it's not in his best interest due to the increased risk of complications.
The tethered cord release surgery will be around 90 minutes long and will only require 1-2 days in the hospital. Then the 4 week recovery before the fusion surgery. I have really, really just surrendered myself to the future knowing that God is in full control so my weepiness is subsiding and I am feeling hopeful and faith-filled. Every surgery Kasey has had, every time it seemed the odds were against him, this is the point I have gotten to and honestly, for me, a control freak, it's really nice to rest in the shadow of His wings and live in His strength. I was really drained!
Kasey, on the other hand, has had nothing but excitement for his surgery. He says he is tired of having back pain and ready to feel better. He keeps asking people to come for his surgery and if they are excited for it! Great-grandpa and grandma will be here Saturday for the first surgery and are coming back for the second also -- we are all excited for that! We are blessed with all the support we have as a family and also the amount of families from around the world that have reached out to us to share their children's journey down the same road. There is so much comfort in hearing similar stories and what it looks like from the other side of surgery.
Also, in my last post I forgot to mention our curvature degrees. This won't mean much to most of you but I am also using this blog as a way of organizing most pertinent info to keep in his medical records book (1 of 3 -- 3 ring binders full of med records). His thoracic curve is now at 78.9 degrees and his lumbar curve measures 43 degrees. I will post pics as we get closer to his big day to show the progression of his curve and for comparison after surgery. Another thing I forgot to mention in the last post was that he also has some kyphosis -- which is why he is hunched forward. The surgery should also fix that. He will be learning to walk all over again after surgery because the way he walks is compensatory for his curvature and what works best for him. With rods that attach to his pelvis, he will need to learn a whole new way to balance and manage himself. I expect that he will back up and dancing to the Michael Jackson experience (his fav!!) video game in no time!
Thanks for continuing to pray for him, our family, and our surgeons -- we really do feel the peace of prayers around here :)
Tuesday, August 21, 2012
Monday, August 13, 2012
Kasey's Scoliosis Journey
My son Kasey turns 14 on December 14th. His scoliosis was discovered just after his first birthday. It was of little consequence back then compared to his other health struggles. They were giving him an entire body work-up due to uncontrollable seizures when they discovered the scoliosis and a hole the size of a quarter in his little heart. At that time, the hole was the immediate concern because it was so large and even having a bowel movement could have caused him a heart attack. That was immediately fixed and we began monitoring his back. All these years he has been in multiple body casts and braces for months at a time to try to control the curvature.
In 2002, K had a partial spinal fusion in his lumbar area. They added cadaver bone to a vertebrae that was triangular-shaped and he went into a body cast immediately after for a few months. He was given a wheelchair and we were told not to let him walk for a while. So, I would pull the wheelchair up to our basketball hoop (because b-ball was his fav!) and my other son, Noah, just a year and a half old would fetch balls for him. I believe we only made it about a week before K figured out how to wiggle out of his chair and I found him standing up playing ball WITH Noah and that was the end of keeping him down. Same with his open heart surgery. Just a few days post-op, he was standing up in his hospital crib shaking the side of it! He sure is a trooper and if you know him, he's got a wonderful attitude so I'm sure that his upcoming surgery will be no different.
Since 2002, it has only been body casts, braces, and frequent doctor visits to closely monitor his growth. In late 2008 we got news that it was time to address surgery. We did everything needed and even drove through a massive snow storm to Salt Lake City Shriner's for the surgery. When we met with doctors however, they said it was a no-go. And we've been on the "surgery or not" roller coaster ever since. Some of you have been on that with us and probably got tired of us getting all ready for surgery only to say it was cancelled. It was very emotionally taxing, and honestly, it will be a relief not to have this major surgery looming over us anymore. We never could totally understand why surgery kept getting cancelled. Now we plainly see it was because no one really, really knew what the best plan of action was.
Last year in December we met with K's docs to discuss recent results of his spine MRI and CT. We were told that his spine had gotten worse and was very complicated. Shriner's deal with children and although K is a child, they said his back and spinal cord had issues more commonly seen in adults. They said they would need to consult with other docs around the country to see how to proceed because the risks of doing surgery on his complicated little back were just as risky as not doing surgery. There is an issue of his own vertebrae damaging his spinal cord if left untreated but to untangle and fix the mess that his back is in, comes with the same risks including paralysis, loss of bowel and bladder control, diminished quality of life, loss of the ability to walk, etc. It was very clear to me that we had now exceeded Shriner's scope of knowledge, the docs were perplexed, and we would need to find someone who was comfortable takeing his case.
We sat in limbo until about a month ago when I contacted some local docs recommended by Shriner's. Our new doc looked at the CT/MRI results and concluded the same -- it is highly risky, but surgery needs to be done immediately. The new info he presented, however, brought all the on again/off again limbo into clearer focus. What we hadn't been told previously was that his 2002 fusion was no longer in place, that he had a tethered cord (which is that his spinal cord is being pulled on at the bottom due to an attachment called a fatty filum), and a small syrinx or outpouching in his spinal cord. We had him tested years ago specifically for tethering and syringomyelia at the recommendation of our chiropractor. The results came back negative. You can imagine our shock last month to find out that those complications actually did exist and had existed all along. The issue is that someone might have overlooked these things because they were so small and hard to see. The on again/off again kept happening because in light of all the extra issues, surgery is risky and there is no guarantee it will makes things better and not worse. There is no manual, no story that is identical to what we are dealing with and hindsight will be our only guide as to whether we made the right decision or not. The awesome praise about that visit is that the doctor said he is so much more flexible that he should be (I think it's because our awesome Chiropractor worked on him nearly weekly since we found the scoli) and that kiddos with Kasey's degree of curvature have usually had multiple surgeries due to internal organ compromise...his organs are healthy and happy :)
So, a few weeks ago we met with a neurosurgeon to discuss spinal cord, tethering issues that would need to be addressed in their own surgery prior to the fusion surgery. She also met us with some perplexity. I should be used to this with K at this point because nothing in his life has been cut and dry. One doc years ago used him as a case study because of his complexities. The neuro said she would ask other neuro's and see what their opinions are because spinal cord surgery may be necessary but it may not be. Well, today her call came. He needs to have surgery for his tethering but originally we were told it would require two surgeries, now they are going to do the fusion and tethering in one. August 29th. That's our day. Tomorrow we go in for a pre-op appointment where we will learn more about what's to come. I've stalked these docs online and learned all I can about them and their reputations and I feel 100% comfortable with them doing it. Where I lose it is in the risks and the amount of pain they tell us Kasey will have post-op.
The expected outcome for him is that after 6 mos of recouperating, he will be able to join right back in to all the sports he loves! He should be able to walk further distances, and his daily back pain should become little to nothing. He should be straighter which will lighten the load on his organs, it could possibly cure his migraines as thethering of the cord can cause them. And it could give him enough height to slam dunk a basketball! (Well...almost!)
We are fully placing our faith in God and this hasn't come without lots of prayer. We feel peace about moving forward with surgery but we know there's no turning back once the decision is made. There is no way to know what the future holds. We feel it holds peace, health, prosperity, and long life for our son and we are holding tightly to that.
The neurosurgeon will go in and cut the attachment that is causing the tethering of his cord. The biggest risk with her is that she could cut a nerve root and it could cause numbness in a certain area. Her part is self admittedly easy compared to the other two docs'. The spinal fusion will be from neck to pelvis. It will be an 8-12 hour surgery with docs who have done many of these surgeries in third world countries with much less technology and even by candlelight. God led us to these doctors, of that I am sure. In the link below, you can learn about the fusion surgery as told by one of Kasey's actual doctors.
We know the power of God and resiliency of our kiddo so we ask you to join with us in praying for Kasey, our docs, and our family as we face this last foreseeable hurdle in Kasey's journey to wellness. I am not beyond begging for your prayers and in advance, thank you, because you will never know how much those mean to us.
I am planning on using this blog to regularly post updates to family and friends so feel free to subscribe if you want to stay in the loop. Any who know me, know I am not good at making/answering phone calls so this will be a good spot to get info.
In 2002, K had a partial spinal fusion in his lumbar area. They added cadaver bone to a vertebrae that was triangular-shaped and he went into a body cast immediately after for a few months. He was given a wheelchair and we were told not to let him walk for a while. So, I would pull the wheelchair up to our basketball hoop (because b-ball was his fav!) and my other son, Noah, just a year and a half old would fetch balls for him. I believe we only made it about a week before K figured out how to wiggle out of his chair and I found him standing up playing ball WITH Noah and that was the end of keeping him down. Same with his open heart surgery. Just a few days post-op, he was standing up in his hospital crib shaking the side of it! He sure is a trooper and if you know him, he's got a wonderful attitude so I'm sure that his upcoming surgery will be no different.
Since 2002, it has only been body casts, braces, and frequent doctor visits to closely monitor his growth. In late 2008 we got news that it was time to address surgery. We did everything needed and even drove through a massive snow storm to Salt Lake City Shriner's for the surgery. When we met with doctors however, they said it was a no-go. And we've been on the "surgery or not" roller coaster ever since. Some of you have been on that with us and probably got tired of us getting all ready for surgery only to say it was cancelled. It was very emotionally taxing, and honestly, it will be a relief not to have this major surgery looming over us anymore. We never could totally understand why surgery kept getting cancelled. Now we plainly see it was because no one really, really knew what the best plan of action was.
Last year in December we met with K's docs to discuss recent results of his spine MRI and CT. We were told that his spine had gotten worse and was very complicated. Shriner's deal with children and although K is a child, they said his back and spinal cord had issues more commonly seen in adults. They said they would need to consult with other docs around the country to see how to proceed because the risks of doing surgery on his complicated little back were just as risky as not doing surgery. There is an issue of his own vertebrae damaging his spinal cord if left untreated but to untangle and fix the mess that his back is in, comes with the same risks including paralysis, loss of bowel and bladder control, diminished quality of life, loss of the ability to walk, etc. It was very clear to me that we had now exceeded Shriner's scope of knowledge, the docs were perplexed, and we would need to find someone who was comfortable takeing his case.
We sat in limbo until about a month ago when I contacted some local docs recommended by Shriner's. Our new doc looked at the CT/MRI results and concluded the same -- it is highly risky, but surgery needs to be done immediately. The new info he presented, however, brought all the on again/off again limbo into clearer focus. What we hadn't been told previously was that his 2002 fusion was no longer in place, that he had a tethered cord (which is that his spinal cord is being pulled on at the bottom due to an attachment called a fatty filum), and a small syrinx or outpouching in his spinal cord. We had him tested years ago specifically for tethering and syringomyelia at the recommendation of our chiropractor. The results came back negative. You can imagine our shock last month to find out that those complications actually did exist and had existed all along. The issue is that someone might have overlooked these things because they were so small and hard to see. The on again/off again kept happening because in light of all the extra issues, surgery is risky and there is no guarantee it will makes things better and not worse. There is no manual, no story that is identical to what we are dealing with and hindsight will be our only guide as to whether we made the right decision or not. The awesome praise about that visit is that the doctor said he is so much more flexible that he should be (I think it's because our awesome Chiropractor worked on him nearly weekly since we found the scoli) and that kiddos with Kasey's degree of curvature have usually had multiple surgeries due to internal organ compromise...his organs are healthy and happy :)
So, a few weeks ago we met with a neurosurgeon to discuss spinal cord, tethering issues that would need to be addressed in their own surgery prior to the fusion surgery. She also met us with some perplexity. I should be used to this with K at this point because nothing in his life has been cut and dry. One doc years ago used him as a case study because of his complexities. The neuro said she would ask other neuro's and see what their opinions are because spinal cord surgery may be necessary but it may not be. Well, today her call came. He needs to have surgery for his tethering but originally we were told it would require two surgeries, now they are going to do the fusion and tethering in one. August 29th. That's our day. Tomorrow we go in for a pre-op appointment where we will learn more about what's to come. I've stalked these docs online and learned all I can about them and their reputations and I feel 100% comfortable with them doing it. Where I lose it is in the risks and the amount of pain they tell us Kasey will have post-op.
The expected outcome for him is that after 6 mos of recouperating, he will be able to join right back in to all the sports he loves! He should be able to walk further distances, and his daily back pain should become little to nothing. He should be straighter which will lighten the load on his organs, it could possibly cure his migraines as thethering of the cord can cause them. And it could give him enough height to slam dunk a basketball! (Well...almost!)
We are fully placing our faith in God and this hasn't come without lots of prayer. We feel peace about moving forward with surgery but we know there's no turning back once the decision is made. There is no way to know what the future holds. We feel it holds peace, health, prosperity, and long life for our son and we are holding tightly to that.
We know the power of God and resiliency of our kiddo so we ask you to join with us in praying for Kasey, our docs, and our family as we face this last foreseeable hurdle in Kasey's journey to wellness. I am not beyond begging for your prayers and in advance, thank you, because you will never know how much those mean to us.
I am planning on using this blog to regularly post updates to family and friends so feel free to subscribe if you want to stay in the loop. Any who know me, know I am not good at making/answering phone calls so this will be a good spot to get info.
Friday, August 10, 2012
I Prefer Distractions and Delusions...
Today my thoughts have been ripped from my delusional, happy place back into reality. Let me tell you about my happy place. It's wonderful, really, really wonderful!
My happy place exists only in my mind but being the imaginitive and highly convincing soul that I am, I exist there pretty much daily! It brings peace and contentment to some otherwise unnerving situations. It is a place where no one is sick, there are no medical issues, no specialists, no doctors, no bad news, no special needs, no worries about the futures or safety of my boys, no major medical bills, no blended families, no past baggage. In my delusional world, BOTH of my boys are healthy. My husband and I do not have a blended family but instead are a wonderful, solid little family -- who see eachother every single day. Our family is the most awesome in the whole world! We have grandkids and a daughter-in-law to die for. We have no one meddling in our lives, no one stirring up trouble. The awesome family, daughter-in-law, grandkid thing is actual REALITY. The farce of that is the blended part. There are parts of our lives that blend about as well as oil and water. Those are the things I ignore in my happy place. On a regular basis I am effective at ignoring those things and existing as if all is well. It has become a self-preservation mechanism for me, my health, for my marriage, for my sanity (well, what little sanity I had anyway).
I have been re-doing my bathroom this week while my hubby was on business in Pennsylvania. I jumped into this project quickly initially thinking it was just because it needed done. I quickly realized it was really just a distraction from what was to come. I knew I was expecting a call at the end of the week. Today is the day the call is supposed to come in. Today I am sitting by my phone waiting...waiting on a Neurosurgeon to tell me what the future holds regarding my 13 year old son and a spinal cord surgery. I am weepy, on edge, and yanked from my happy place. I have a good idea of what is to come. This spinal cord surgery is in question. But even if it doesn't happen, there's another definite spinal surgery immediately waiting in its wings. So the only question is: will he have one surgery or two? And when will this nightmare begin and end?
I have faith in God. I have faith that He will come through for my son. I pray about it all the time and many others have joined us in regular prayer. It's not a lack of faith that makes me cry. It's not hope for the future. It's the pain my child will have to endure no matter what outcome awaits us on the other side. We sometimes question how much our son absorbs due to his mental challenges but the other day in the car when he sat quietly for a long while, I asked him what he was thinking about. He said he was thinking about his surgery pain. I would be stupid to think that I'm the only concerned with what is about to happen. It weighs on my child's mind. It weighs on all of us. However on a normal daily basis we could ignore these thoughts because they weren't yet imminent. Now it's staring me in the face and I miss my happy place. I can be so delusional regarding my son that his limitations will shock me all over again because I see him as so normal on my daily radar. My son has a speech problem???? Oh yeah, he does, I forgot! He isn't "normal"???? Oh yeah, I forgot. He has severe scoliosis??? I guess I remember that.
I love delusionality and when I can't be in that space, I love me some distractions. It's not all bad though, my bathroom now looks AWESOME! And my happy place is vacant now for a (short) while, so if anyone is looking to get away, I would be willing to rent it out for a small charge!
And most importantly, if and when you think of us, say a prayer for our family. What is to come for us is the biggest mountain we've had to climb with Kasey in about 10 years. Good or bad, I feel out of practice with handling reality.
My happy place exists only in my mind but being the imaginitive and highly convincing soul that I am, I exist there pretty much daily! It brings peace and contentment to some otherwise unnerving situations. It is a place where no one is sick, there are no medical issues, no specialists, no doctors, no bad news, no special needs, no worries about the futures or safety of my boys, no major medical bills, no blended families, no past baggage. In my delusional world, BOTH of my boys are healthy. My husband and I do not have a blended family but instead are a wonderful, solid little family -- who see eachother every single day. Our family is the most awesome in the whole world! We have grandkids and a daughter-in-law to die for. We have no one meddling in our lives, no one stirring up trouble. The awesome family, daughter-in-law, grandkid thing is actual REALITY. The farce of that is the blended part. There are parts of our lives that blend about as well as oil and water. Those are the things I ignore in my happy place. On a regular basis I am effective at ignoring those things and existing as if all is well. It has become a self-preservation mechanism for me, my health, for my marriage, for my sanity (well, what little sanity I had anyway).
I have been re-doing my bathroom this week while my hubby was on business in Pennsylvania. I jumped into this project quickly initially thinking it was just because it needed done. I quickly realized it was really just a distraction from what was to come. I knew I was expecting a call at the end of the week. Today is the day the call is supposed to come in. Today I am sitting by my phone waiting...waiting on a Neurosurgeon to tell me what the future holds regarding my 13 year old son and a spinal cord surgery. I am weepy, on edge, and yanked from my happy place. I have a good idea of what is to come. This spinal cord surgery is in question. But even if it doesn't happen, there's another definite spinal surgery immediately waiting in its wings. So the only question is: will he have one surgery or two? And when will this nightmare begin and end?
I have faith in God. I have faith that He will come through for my son. I pray about it all the time and many others have joined us in regular prayer. It's not a lack of faith that makes me cry. It's not hope for the future. It's the pain my child will have to endure no matter what outcome awaits us on the other side. We sometimes question how much our son absorbs due to his mental challenges but the other day in the car when he sat quietly for a long while, I asked him what he was thinking about. He said he was thinking about his surgery pain. I would be stupid to think that I'm the only concerned with what is about to happen. It weighs on my child's mind. It weighs on all of us. However on a normal daily basis we could ignore these thoughts because they weren't yet imminent. Now it's staring me in the face and I miss my happy place. I can be so delusional regarding my son that his limitations will shock me all over again because I see him as so normal on my daily radar. My son has a speech problem???? Oh yeah, he does, I forgot! He isn't "normal"???? Oh yeah, I forgot. He has severe scoliosis??? I guess I remember that.
I love delusionality and when I can't be in that space, I love me some distractions. It's not all bad though, my bathroom now looks AWESOME! And my happy place is vacant now for a (short) while, so if anyone is looking to get away, I would be willing to rent it out for a small charge!
And most importantly, if and when you think of us, say a prayer for our family. What is to come for us is the biggest mountain we've had to climb with Kasey in about 10 years. Good or bad, I feel out of practice with handling reality.
Friday, July 27, 2012
How To Win Friends And Influence People
My step-son serves in the Army. He puts his life on the line constantly, he and his family make sacrifices that many families/people would not be willing to make. Why? He fights for our freedom. He fights for our rights. One of those rights is freedom of speech. But is it me or does it seem like freedom of speech doesn't really exist anymore? Many times this year I have begun organizing thoughts to put here and then stopped because I didn't want to deal with the fallout of the hateful people who can't respectfully disagree. So often Christians, like myself, are judged with such extreme and skewed measures. Take for instance the fallout from the Chick-fil-A drama. All the guy did was state his opinion. Somehow his opinion was warped into hatred. Differing opinions does not equal hatred. And all the "It Gets Better" Anti-gay bullying stuff really becomes extremely ironic in this light. They don't want to BE bullied, but they feel free TO bully if you don't agree with them. There are extremes in every religion/group that truly HATE. Chick-fil-A's giving record is being likened to giving to hate-groups. Christians are not called to hate. They are called to love all. That doesn't mean we have to agree with all, it means we have to love all regardless. I really don't feel that others are fighting for equality. It seems they emerged from the proverbial "closets" just looking for another group to bully back into the closet in their place. Bullying into silence.
So many people have been telling how Chick-fil-A should have just kept their mouths shut so as not to rock the boat, not to lose business. I understand that our opinions are not always best shared. But at some point in life, we need to stand on and sometimes publicly own, the principles that we value. We all need moral absolutes (even if they differ) and to not just be moved by pop culture. Whether athiest, Christian, gay or straight, purple or blue -- we must value some things enough to stand up for them. Of course, the extremist beliefs that endanger others' lives are not the values I am speaking of, so don't go all terrorist ninja on me. And whether or not we agree with others, we must respect their opinions. We don't have to like them but we must try to peacefully agree to disagree.
I understand that our nation isn't a "Christian nation" as our Commander-In-Chief says. I understand that we are a melting pot of beliefs and value systems. Here is what I don't understand...why can't we all play nice???
I find it refreshing when someone has passion enough to stand 100% on their value system and not back down. Even if I don't agree with them. We aren't going to win people over to our way of thinking by bullying and degrading them. We may silence them, but we won't win them. Is silence a victory?
I myself am guilty of giving in to silence recently, so as not to rock the boat. But we lose part of ourselves when we can't be honest. Homosexuals know this to the core. When we are silenced, it is because we have been made to feel like something about us is shameful. So, how is it that some who have already experienced this oppression are so quick to want to pass it on? If we want our opinions to be valued, we must first place equal value on others' opinions. At some point you would think we would all put our "big-girl panties" on and realize we aren't always going to agree and that it's ok. We aren't all going to start from the exact same foundation and end at the exact same conclusion. But since we are all stuck in the sandbox together, we might as well play nice and not throw sand in each others' eyes! Either that or we should stop calling America "The Land Of The Free" and my step-son should be home with his wife and kids every single night and stop laboring in vain for our "freedom".
So many people have been telling how Chick-fil-A should have just kept their mouths shut so as not to rock the boat, not to lose business. I understand that our opinions are not always best shared. But at some point in life, we need to stand on and sometimes publicly own, the principles that we value. We all need moral absolutes (even if they differ) and to not just be moved by pop culture. Whether athiest, Christian, gay or straight, purple or blue -- we must value some things enough to stand up for them. Of course, the extremist beliefs that endanger others' lives are not the values I am speaking of, so don't go all terrorist ninja on me. And whether or not we agree with others, we must respect their opinions. We don't have to like them but we must try to peacefully agree to disagree.
I understand that our nation isn't a "Christian nation" as our Commander-In-Chief says. I understand that we are a melting pot of beliefs and value systems. Here is what I don't understand...why can't we all play nice???
I find it refreshing when someone has passion enough to stand 100% on their value system and not back down. Even if I don't agree with them. We aren't going to win people over to our way of thinking by bullying and degrading them. We may silence them, but we won't win them. Is silence a victory?
I myself am guilty of giving in to silence recently, so as not to rock the boat. But we lose part of ourselves when we can't be honest. Homosexuals know this to the core. When we are silenced, it is because we have been made to feel like something about us is shameful. So, how is it that some who have already experienced this oppression are so quick to want to pass it on? If we want our opinions to be valued, we must first place equal value on others' opinions. At some point you would think we would all put our "big-girl panties" on and realize we aren't always going to agree and that it's ok. We aren't all going to start from the exact same foundation and end at the exact same conclusion. But since we are all stuck in the sandbox together, we might as well play nice and not throw sand in each others' eyes! Either that or we should stop calling America "The Land Of The Free" and my step-son should be home with his wife and kids every single night and stop laboring in vain for our "freedom".
Sunday, May 13, 2012
Dear Mom
Following is a letter I wrote for a friend who lost her 6 year-old son last October. This is her first Mother's Day without him. I think it speaks volumes to the grief of birthmother's also, so I am sharing it here today. We so often think of Mother's day as being joyous, but for so many, it is a sobering reminder of empty arms and holes left in hearts. Peace and blessings to everyone this day.
Dear Mom –
Happy Mother’s day! I am sorry I can’t be with you today but we have an eternity full of days to celebrate in the future. Mom, I know you miss me. I know Mother’s day makes you sad; especially this first one without me. I never wanted to break your heart and I was mostly meant to bring you joy. Will you remember that on this day?
I was picked especially for you, even if it was for too short of a time. While I was with you, I brought you joy, but now you must remember that it’s the Lord’s time to bring you joy. My departing brought you intense grief, but My Heavenly Father, your Heavenly Father, will bring hope and joy renewed with each brand new morning. Mom, please hold on to that promise. Please hold on to Him. Hold on to the hope that our last goodbye really was the last goodbye. When we meet again, those words will never be spoken between us again.
Thank you for who you are. Thank you for the great love you gave me. Thank you for everything you have done for me up to this point. It is now time to honor me by doing for you. Honor me by feeling alive again. Honor me by living each day with the intense purpose and vitality you had while I was with you. It’s ok to be sad, but honor me by letting it only be sometimes. You always put me first and I thank you for that selfless love, but it’s time for self-love. Honor me by learning to love and see yourself how God see’s you Mom. You should hear the way He speaks of you! He loves you with a fire that burns brighter and hotter than the sun – and that’s on the days you feel you’ve let Him down! Mom, please keep Him first and foremost in your heart. He really is truth and love and healing and all those things you need for the rest of your journey on Earth.
In those moments when you can actually physically feel the hole I left in your heart by my departure, go to Him Mom. Let him fill that hole up so you don’t sink in the waters of your grief. I came to you to be a blessing straight from God and He never meant for the focus to be on my departure but instead, on our time spent together – on the blessing of our journey together. Remember that, Mom. On this Mother’s day, remember the blessings.
I love you with all my heart and am thankful that He gave you to me as My Mother. And He loves you even more than I ever could! Always remember that.
Sunday, January 22, 2012
Birthmom Input
Hey birthmoms! I am once again being given the platform this Friday to speak about all things adoption/birthmom. Here is where I would like some input: If you are a birthmom, what do you want adoptive parents to think about/know/consider about the birthmother side of adoption? Keep it to one paragraph and email it to: cindylouhoohoo@gmail.com. I love sharing others stories/input when speaking! And feel free to pass this on to any birthmoms you know.
Thanks :)
Cynthia
Thanks :)
Cynthia
Saturday, January 7, 2012
Welcome!
Welcome! If you are familiar with my blog, thanks for following me to my new place at blogger.com. This is where I will post permanently now so please consider subscribing here. If you are brand new to my blog, have a look around and if you like what you see, I would love for you to subscribe also. I post mostly on adoption, but also leave room for whatever may be on my heart. Have a great weekend and thanks for stopping by!
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